Dear Daddy: My husband left me when he found out I had a secret friendship. I am heartbroken.
I knew my friend before I met my husband.
I contact her now and then, usually when my husband and I are arguing.
Our friendship is Platonic. I don’t like him and he’s not interested in me.
My husband used my phone and saw that I had called my friend. I refused to talk to him because my husband has a problem with trust.
His ex-wife cheated on him several times.
He did so much work. We parted ways for what I thought would be a few days to calm him down.
But now it’s three months later and we’re still apart. I am 47 and my husband is 49.
He sends me messages that he has done me a favor, but then says that he still cares about me. I’m very confused.
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Daddy says: Some secrets can weaken trust and have severely damaged your husband.
He is sending mixed messages which shows that he is not sure what he wants.
Explain why you didn’t tell him about your friend and reassure him that he was innocent.
Every issue gets a personal answer, usually within 24 hours on weekdays.
Ask him out well if he is no longer absorbed in the connection.
If he doesn’t answer your questions clearly, you may need to move on.