FORMER Miss Great Britain April Banbury has given up looking for love after dating 100 men.
The 32-year-old beauty queen says she is never spoken to and all the men she liked were gone by the fourth date.
To make matters worse, April works as a wedding dress designer, surrounded by brides who constantly ask why she is not married.
April said: “During my work, future brides surround me and they ask if I am married, and when I say no, they always say: “Why not?” Like it’s a certainty!
“I’ve been on over 100 dates and I’m done.”
Despite her great looks, April says she’s rarely approached when she’s away and has turned to online dating to meet potential suitors.
She said, “I never talk in a bar.
“Men don’t usually approach me, so I turned to online dating.”
Terrible dates and red flags
Along the way, she met a lot of “terrible” dates and red flags.
She said, “Last year I was desperately looking for love. I dated this guy and then there were red flags, date cancellations, excuses, so I cut him off. I’m so stubborn; I don’t give a second chance. You either want me or you don’t deserve me.
On her list of bad experiences was one man who didn’t look like his profile and couldn’t stop sneezing throughout the date.
She said: “Snot ran from his nose and he kept wiping it with the back of his hand.
“There was a trail of snot on his arm and he did it all the time.
“I apologized – the first thing that came to my mind – and said: “I have a meeting tomorrow, and I need to get up at 6 in the morning.”
Then there was a guy who constantly called on business during their date, which made April feel like she was “dining on her own.”
When she said she didn’t want to see him anymore, he blocked her number.
She continued, “A guy invited me to dinner. He chose a seat and then tried to make me pay for it. I had to make a quick exit.
Tried my luck on the first date
And one sassy guy tried his luck on the way home from their first date with a classic excuse.
April said, “I thought he was taking me in a taxi.
“Then he jumped out at my address and said that he needed to go to the toilet.
“I knew what his intentions were and would not let him in one iota. He just assumed that he would come back with me to my house! Red flag!”
Aside from the unwanted groping, there was a guy who was rude to the waiter and one April caught chatting with a girl at the bar when she got back from Ladies.
April said: “There was another one who took me to a pub and all his friends came, 15 people.
“I drank and left.
“Sometimes men google me before a date and then discuss what they found online. He boasted to his comrades, saying, “Yes, I’m on a date with Mrs. GB.”
“I didn’t see him again.
There will be no sex on the first date
April refuses to jump into bed with her dates and says she suffers from the “fourth date curse” – if she hasn’t slept with a guy by the fourth date, they get sick of waiting and move on to someone else.
She said, “I like to get to know someone before we get into it. I may be old-fashioned in this regard, but that’s not me.”
There was one man she changed her rule for, but it fizzled out after she slept with him.
She said: “It made me feel used. I believe in honesty.
“If they say in the beginning that they are not looking for anything, just having fun, then at least I can choose whether to spend time with them.
“Instead, they lead me and then move on to others, and this is cruel. Men lie to get me into bed, they say whatever you want to hear.
“I’ve learned my lesson and now I’m waiting as long as possible.”
When she likes someone and comes up with an idea for something serious, April says that guys get scared and disappear.
She said, “At about the fourth date, you can say, ‘Are you dating someone else because I want to know where I stand.’
“I ask what they are looking for and the guys get scared and don’t want commitment. It’s easier for them to run away and call me.
“With online dating, if I’m not interested, they can move on to the next one and find someone who is interested.”
Nearly died of anorexia
April is the 2020 Miss Great Britain Women 28+ winner.
Raised by Olympic champion cyclist Ian Banbury and her grandmother Dorothy, April battled anorexia for many years and nearly died of an eating disorder as a teenager.
She is now an ambassador for the charity SEED or the Eating Disorder Support Services.
When it comes to looking for romance, she won’t put up with being joked around with.
She said, “I don’t know why they are after me.
“We make plans together and then they just disappear.
“They don’t deserve me.”
Secret code to escape dating
April also revealed that she and her flatmate José have a code that they use when either of them goes on a date and it’s related to their fake cat.
She said, “If I go on a date, my flatmate will call and say, ‘I’m going grocery shopping, what kind of bread do you want?’ If I say “Gluten Free Bread”, then he knows that everything is going well.
“But if I say “White bread”, then he will understand that I need to run away, and after a while he will call back and say that the cat is sick.
“I will tell the guy that I have to go because the cat is sick. We don’t have a cat. I wouldn’t use this as code if we had it in a way that could tempt fate.
Another problem she faced in her search for love is the number of men openly dating multiple women at the same time.
April said: “I met some people that I really liked, but found that they were dating other people and I was not a priority for them.
“Others are completely fed up and say from the start that they have a few women on the go.
“I’m dating one person or no one.”
“Confident and happy like me”
April may have hit the pause button in search of love, but she’s not worried.
Her career is moving forward, and now it is her priority.
She designed the national costume for the Miss Universe pageant for the second year in a row with requests to design and create dresses for contestants.
She added: “I also designed the Miss Wales Miss World pageant last December. These are the two biggest competitions in the world where people ask and place orders, which is so cute. I am very busy.
“In my grandmother’s day, you got married at 18 and started a family almost immediately, but these days I feel a shift and people get old before they settle down for many reasons. Things have changed and marriage and children are no longer everything and the end of everything.
“Now I am confident and happy the way I am. My career is moving faster than ever and I need to focus on myself.”