I have had sex with married men behind my husband’s back for many years.

DEAR DIDRE: While my family considers me a shy and predictable middle-aged woman, I am so lonely that I have been dating married men for years.

I am 54 years old, my husband is 55 years old. We have been together for over 25 years, we have two adult daughters, 24 and 22 years old.


I am so lonely that for many years I have had sex with married men behind my husband’s back.

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He was my first love. To begin with, I found sex exciting and completely satisfying.

But over the years we drifted apart and I found myself looking at other guys and imagining having sex with them.

Eventually curiosity got the better of me and I signed up on a dating app.

I was amazed when several guys who were married or in long-term relationships contacted me.

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I was particularly attracted to one of them, and I arranged to meet him for a drink – while I played myself, we had nothing but a friendly conversation.

This guy was 48 years old and he gave me a lot of compliments. I was in awe of the attention.

In the pub, he began to run his hand over my leg, and we kissed.

We ended up having sex in his apartment and he touched me in places I didn’t even know existed.

Since then I have been on the hook. Since then I have dated several other guys. We are always having sex and no one ever expects more.

Now I don’t know what to do. I don’t love my husband and I don’t like him.

Sex with him is terrible and just doesn’t compare to these other men.

I don’t get any thrills. He just doesn’t do it for me now.

I don’t mean to offend anyone, but I see no light at the end of the tunnel.

DEIDRA SAYS: Your married sex life used to be great, but it’s all too easy to start letting it become routine and mundane.

Getting stuck in a rut is something that many people are familiar with, but it doesn’t mean your relationship is in trouble.

If you and your husband want to improve relations, you have every chance to get them back on track.

Of course, it is very nice to meet new lovers. The thrill of the forbidden and the excitement of being with someone else are enough on their own to increase your arousal.

If you are willing to try, you can enjoy a huge variety of different sex with your husband.

These guys gave you a thrill, but do they offer something else? I doubt it.

Wake up before you lose everything and put some energy into making your married sex life more exciting and satisfying.

My 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex support package will help.

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